Surely everyone is gay on their wedding day? Happiest day of our lives and so forth. Of course I’m using the original meaning of the word gay – to be happy. Clearly, I read way too many novels written more than a hundred years ago.
(“Mr Darcy, you libertine, unhand the hem of my skirt before someone sees”). Sorry, mental segue there… where were we ?… Ah yes…
I have no issue with other people’s sexual preferences. In fact, I don’t care and really couldn’t be less interested. If someone is heterosexual, fine; homosexual, also fine. Any other kind of sexual… also fine. I’m completely not concerned at all. In fact, I consider it to be none of my business… at all. So I find the whole concept of wearing one’s sexuality or sexual preferences on one’s sleeve rather ridiculous.
I believe that “gay” men and “gay” women should be allowed to get married, if they wish it. I don’t believe that anyone should be discriminated against, or for based upon their sexual and romantic preferences. So, Yes absolutely, they should have the right to get married.
My question with the entire issue is something quite different. My question is, WHY would they WANT to? Surely the example set before them of heterosexual marriages should be enough to dissuade them forever from it, and that this is a really crap idea !!
Ok. I’m being deliberately glib. (Note to self – must stop being glib… one day… a long way into the future). They want to have the right to get married for legal and financial reasons, and for their mutual commitment to be recognised – fair enough.. But, surely, it’s time for us to consider other parameters for this kind of relationship altogether.
For those who wish to take the traditional route, great. Fantastic. Enjoy. But, there has to be a way of creating a “partnership” with another person, which has everyone covered in terms of legal rights and financial security, and airing of commitment, which does not involve marriage in it’s conventional sense.
“Partnership” – such a silly word to refer to someone with whom you are sharing your life and your bed, but not actually legally bound to.
Noel Fielding, a brilliant stand-up comic, star of “The Mighty Boosh” and panel leader on the insurmountably wonderful ‘Never Mind the Buzzcocks” put it thusly. Just a note – if you’re not familiar with Noel’s look – he’s slightly androgynous, and one could easily be unsure of his sexual orientation (if one really cared enough about such things). He covered this “confusion” about the word ‘partner’ in a gig on Michael McIntyre’s Comedy Roadshow. It went like this (sorry Noel I’m paraphrasing)… ..
“I was in the bath with my partner the other night, we were splashing around and laughing; it’s so difficult to do anything in the bath isn’t it? It’s all too slippery, and we ended up having a fight about whether he was going to sit down the plug/tap end, or I was. So, we were messing around, and it was all getting pretty steamy. Suddenly, my girlfriend walked in and said, “Look, I don’t mind the two of you running a small business together, but this is ridiculous”.
(A story about Noel. My Mother – yes – and I saw him do a stand-up gig, years ago, for the Hatherleigh Festival (world renowned it is… not really), before he was so big and famous and on the telly, and it was pretty clear then, that this was no ordinary comedian – his stream of consciousness style of humour was a brilliant thing to observe.)
So, yeah, gay marriage… no problem with that at all.
But isn’t it time to find a workable alternative to marriage full stop ?!
For straights and for gays.
Straights have rights too !!!!
Addendum – Funniest thing I’ve seen in a long time – a placard at a Pro Gay Marriage Rally… on it was written… “WE WANT TO BE MISERABLE TOO”.